sacrifice

“They need to know what they did was wrong!”

When I’m driving and someone cuts me off, I often honk and yell at them so they know what they did was wrong to me!

I may even speed alongside them and pass them to prove that I was wronged and take my control back.

I’ve even justified to my family that I honk at them because they need to know what they did was wrong!

What I’m missing is that in those moments, the people in the car with me (whom I always care about more than the person who cut me off) will likely feel unsafe or uncomfortable when I do this.

I’m so focused on justifying what was done in the past that I’m jeopardizing my future.

We may do this with our work and relationships at work.

Someone sees a situation a certain way and we defensively refute the situation from our perspective. All the while pushing that person and others away from us.

Instead, how do you take what comes your way and mindfully proceed considering all those invovled.

This takes a lot of humility and awareness. Be sure your rhythms set you up to be in a humble and aware state.

Less defensiveness. More fact finding.

Less self protection. More sacrifice.

Change Calls for Sacrifice

Any change we make, political or policy change, organizational change, personal change, requires something to be sacrificed.

Maybe you want to workout more, hours of sleep is going to sacrifice.

If we want to change policy so those who are oppressed have burden lifted from them, we have to put a burden on someone else…that is of course if it’s a finite system…maybe our economic system is not as finite as we think…

Anytime we shoot for change, we should identify what is sacrificing. And choose the structure of the change with ideal sacrifice.

This is easier thought through and applied with personal change because it’s a system we understand. More complex policy or political system have been made complex and are tough to understand and change.

Anytime you look to change or grow, call out what you’ll be sacrificing and accept that. Change then can come with more clarity and swift results.