confidence

Two Types: Lacking Humility

ONE:
Overtly arrogant. Big ego.
Everything is about us.
Thinking of ourselves often.
This is the type we typically think of.

TWO:
Lacking self confidence. Deflated sense of self-worth.
Everything is about what we cannot do.
Thinking of ourselves often
This is the type we don’t often think of.

Both types think of themselves often. Both are driven by some sort of insecurity. Humility to me is about our connection to the earth. We come and we go.

Humus is the Latin root of humility. Humus in Latin means, earth.

Recognize our humanity. We are not perfect. We will never be perfect. And yet there is something alive in us.

I’m working to address the insecurity in me that drives me towards both of these types of lacking humility. Right now I think it’s a lot about fear of being stuck. Fear of not stagnation. Fear of irrelevance. Fear of loneliness.

Inspired to think of humility this way from Patrick Lencioni’s The Ideal Team Player (page 158 – Defining the Three Virtues)

Build Confidence in Change

When change comes, do you embrace it and adapt or resist and fight?

Often we resist change because a lack of confidence.

Two ways to build confidence as you embrace and adapt in change:

1. Look back and remember times you’ve had success. Think of the generalized skills that allowed you success. Summon those skills you have.

2. Break the change into smaller goals. More visible and attainable steps. As you check things off you’ll spur momentum and assurance.

Enhance to Improve

The things I enjoy most are the ones I feel confident in. Not necessarily confident that I will do it well but confident that it is true, good, and at times that I will do well.

This confidence comes from preparation, certainty of expectations, practice.

Today I taught a scientific technical course which I have no hands on experience in yet is a very hands on concept. Even though I have no physical experience, I have thorough notes on the training. I’ve watched someone else give the training twice and taken notes of what they said, when, and to what context.

This enhancement led to confidence. Confidence led to improvement.

Enhancement for this was me taking notes on the training. Improving my preparation.

What else can I enhance to lead to higher confidence leading to more satisfaction and enjoyment. Even though I don’t particularly like something, doesn’t mean I can’t have confidence in it.

Maybe sometimes confidence can turn our “need” mindset into a “want” mindset.