I’m here for the long haul. I don’t want to leave half way through.
I’m going to be sure to invest in parts of my life that are long term, important parts.
I’ve realized this requires more listening, less speaking, more humility, less assuming.
Long haul is a tough route but so integral.
It is what brought them here. It is what defines what they carry in. It is what will dictate how they decide to go forward.
It matters more than we like to admit because we have little control over it. The control we do have is to edit the environment to fit their story.
We have to consider the other.
When we recruit others, bring others in, invite to the ‘party’, we should be aware of the following:
We have a responsibility to offer and develop buy-in for projects, proposals, events, products that we believe in. Our message must be clear and include the value added to that person. We must consider the other first.
A shepherd has the sheep’s interest at the core. They are concerned with the well being of the herd and will do anything to keep it safe. We can ‘shepherd’ people away from their problems. It’s okay if that means selling them or gaining buy in on something we are passionate about!
When we are silent, we indirectly invite others to engage.
I’m going to look for more opportunities to influence others with my silence.
As a leader, in whatever capacity that may be, we should always be focused on going where those around us are.
I’ve found most success by travelling to other’s life narratives and embracing that perspective and worldview. When we go to this place, we do not go wanting to bring them somewhere else but going purely to go and be with them.
Often they will bring us to new places and often we will bring them to different places but the goal should be to simply go and be there. Embrace the narrative of the other and work to best understand that.
Moments when I’m stubborn are the most difficult to enter gratitude.
However, taking that stubbornness and letting it be the energy behind gratitude is possible! It just takes reverting the stubbornness from the point I’m trying to make or the anger I feel I’m just to have, and send it towards the path of gratitude.
“I will be right…I am in control…No one can tell me I’m wrong…” Turns to:
“I will be grateful!…I am grateful…No one can tell me I’m not grateful”
Before I know it, I’m overflowing with gratitude and cannot remember what I was so upset about.
I’ve found incredible success with gratitude.
In a sitaution that is frustrating, when anxiety creeps in, prior to going to the sometimes tiring place of meeting somewhere they are, leading with gratitude is powerful.
I take about 10 minutes each morning (sometimes I miss) and start with what I’m grateful for in the past or current situation. Quick moments of gratitude. I then think of what I’m grateful that I hope to happen. It sets my day for me and puts me on an upward spiral towards positivity and possibility.
Whether it’s starting the day with gratitude or bringing gratitude into a situation, I’ve found it helps me reach my goals and live life fully.
If I want sustained joy, I need to let my work be enough. Not the response from others. Not the profit gained. There must be something at my core that is satisfied with who I am.
I’m watching my puppy chase a butterfly in the yard. I want to be like that. If she does not catch it, she’s satisfied. It’s the fact that she gets to chase that gives her joy.
Most days, I have more energy and positivity than I know what to do with.
When people have asked me in the past, “How do you keep so positive?”, “Where does it come from?”, I have not had very good responses…
…”Well I find meaning and fulfilment in most things…My faith plays a big part…I look for the best…”. When I’ve given these response, it has not ever felt quite full or whole.
I am going to be searching for a more full reasoning for this so I can give a more integral or whole answer when asked. I want to share my energy and to do so more fully, I should be able to explain it at least a little.
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