Recieving/Taking in
We must be open to influence and look to recieve that which will influence us for the better
Be willing to change mindset and grow rather than be fixed
Giving and Rolling With
We must know when to speak and when to listen
Be willing to step out and use influence to positively impact your environment
Know that you are an integral part to a team
We must know ourself
Know and invest in our strengths
Self-awareness
We must take care of ourself
Know what we need and take action to fulfill that
Moments when I’m stubborn are the most difficult to enter gratitude.
However, taking that stubbornness and letting it be the energy behind gratitude is possible! It just takes reverting the stubbornness from the point I’m trying to make or the anger I feel I’m just to have, and send it towards the path of gratitude.
“I will be right…I am in control…No one can tell me I’m wrong…” Turns to:
“I will be grateful!…I am grateful…No one can tell me I’m not grateful”
Before I know it, I’m overflowing with gratitude and cannot remember what I was so upset about.
I’ve found incredible success with gratitude.
In a sitaution that is frustrating, when anxiety creeps in, prior to going to the sometimes tiring place of meeting somewhere they are, leading with gratitude is powerful.
I take about 10 minutes each morning (sometimes I miss) and start with what I’m grateful for in the past or current situation. Quick moments of gratitude. I then think of what I’m grateful that I hope to happen. It sets my day for me and puts me on an upward spiral towards positivity and possibility.
Whether it’s starting the day with gratitude or bringing gratitude into a situation, I’ve found it helps me reach my goals and live life fully.
If I want sustained joy, I need to let my work be enough. Not the response from others. Not the profit gained. There must be something at my core that is satisfied with who I am.
I’m watching my puppy chase a butterfly in the yard. I want to be like that. If she does not catch it, she’s satisfied. It’s the fact that she gets to chase that gives her joy.
Most days, I have more energy and positivity than I know what to do with.
When people have asked me in the past, “How do you keep so positive?”, “Where does it come from?”, I have not had very good responses…
…”Well I find meaning and fulfilment in most things…My faith plays a big part…I look for the best…”. When I’ve given these response, it has not ever felt quite full or whole.
I am going to be searching for a more full reasoning for this so I can give a more integral or whole answer when asked. I want to share my energy and to do so more fully, I should be able to explain it at least a little.
When we listen, especially to someone who is dissatisfied or disengaged, we will sometimes hear feedback or thoughts that are charged with strong emotion.
We MUST validate the feelings that are present and work to understand where they derive from if we are to make any progress or find any real solution.
In this validation, I’ve found success removing the emotion from the issue once it has been presented, understood, and validated. If I do not filter the emotion, I will let it affect me towards unnecessary urgency or stress.
In filtering, I allow clarity to exist and the most integral decision can be made.
These are examples and not ‘tactics’ or ‘steps’ because as with any human being, interaction must be an art. We must adapt to the other and be willing to shift and change. If we do not evolve, we neglect the goal to meet someone where they are.
Listen. No holds barred. Just listen. Ask and listen.
We must be willing to hear and not direct the conversation anywhere. There will be time in the future to direct the conversation. The important goal “to meet someone where they are”, cannot be overcome by the urgent need to direct the conversation.
Go where the current takes. Especially in the start of a relationship or when there is no sense of a right having been earned.
When we go to someone and meet them where they are there is a right to earn. A right that we as the ones entering the others space, and accepting them as they are, must earn with trust, respect, proven success…
This right is not given because our cause of exiting our own environment and entering another is noble. It does not work that way.
We must still earn the ability to exist with them.
For some this will be immediately earned, for others and most, it will require continuing to go back to that space, with repeated actions, new avenues, and a good deal of time.
Either way, we cannot go expecting the other to give us the right. The success cannot be based on the outcome of having the right. If so, we are missing the whole point of meeting people where they are.
How freeing is it when someone comes to your space, is present and asks nothing of you but yourself, as you are?
When the dishes are in the sink and you can have a conversation across the counter without the other thinking anything of it…When the stresses of the job give you angst and you ramble on while the other just listens and helps you calmly think through the process…
I want to give more people these moments and set others up to give others and myself these sorts of moments.
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