When I’m driving and someone cuts me off, I often honk and yell at them so they know what they did was wrong to me!

I may even speed alongside them and pass them to prove that I was wronged and take my control back.

I’ve even justified to my family that I honk at them because they need to know what they did was wrong!

What I’m missing is that in those moments, the people in the car with me (whom I always care about more than the person who cut me off) will likely feel unsafe or uncomfortable when I do this.

I’m so focused on justifying what was done in the past that I’m jeopardizing my future.

We may do this with our work and relationships at work.

Someone sees a situation a certain way and we defensively refute the situation from our perspective. All the while pushing that person and others away from us.

Instead, how do you take what comes your way and mindfully proceed considering all those invovled.

This takes a lot of humility and awareness. Be sure your rhythms set you up to be in a humble and aware state.

Less defensiveness. More fact finding.

Less self protection. More sacrifice.