If we want to be primed to ask the best questions, we must first be grounded.

To be grounded, we need to remember what we truly have influence over and what we don’t.

Especially when asking questions, if we worry about what we can’t control (circle of concern) we give up our power and make less impact. We need something from the person we are asking the question.

If we instead focus on what we can control (circle of influence) we will be ready to listen and offer a generous question. With readiness to hear.

We can’t use questions to get our way but rather be independent ourselves and ask questions to allow the other their independence and urge all of us towards deeper understanding.