When we go to someone and meet them where they are there is a right to earn. A right that we as the ones entering the others space, and accepting them as they are, must earn with trust, respect, proven success…

This right is not given because our cause of exiting our own environment and entering another is noble. It does not work that way.

We must still earn the ability to exist with them.

For some this will be immediately earned, for others and most, it will require continuing to go back to that space, with repeated actions, new avenues, and a good deal of time.

Either way, we cannot go expecting the other to give us the right. The success cannot be based on the outcome of having the right. If so, we are missing the whole point of meeting people where they are.