It’s the only way for me.
Well not actually but I am going to keep telling myself that so I sacrifice more.
Why would I try to push my point across it love for the other is my ultimate goal?
The best love is sacrifice.
Why would I Barton for any cheaper knock off?
We think love is something else because we’ve been sold the cheap stuff before.
It’s not worth it.
Sacrifice is the only way for me.
Our why gives us deep inspiration that can sustain a lifetime.
The hard part can be discovering the’why.’
What does it take? Reflection, self-awareness, effort?
I think it’s often closer than we imagine it to be. Mostly discovering our ‘why’ requires honesty.
We should remove fear in this process and be honest with our deepest desires and hopes. Regardless what the answer brings, we should be honest.
Misrepresenting our ‘why’ initially could result in a long time of going down the wrong path.
I once flew with Southwest Airlines. They have a culture at least on the plane that I flew on which I hope for in my workplace.As compared to the typical, monotone, annoyed, too cool for school safety talk through, Southwest had fun with it.
They weren’t too cool to try to enjoy what they were doing.
It takes one person to realize they aren’t too cool for others to realize they too aren’t all that cool.
This was a picture from my recent vacation in Cancun. My brother and his fiancé took a picture with Mayan impersonators and they chose this as their background (StarBucks) in the heart of a small city while waiting in line for a ride into Tulum.
Tulum is a Mayan ruin from 5th Century AD. It seems so Authentic. But have we taken away the authenticity?
Is authenticity something that can be taken away?
Has authenticity ever been there?
Integer-Latin-wholeness
Being able to be wholly oneself and fully true is a piece of integrity.
Not that you always stay the same and “consistent” but that you are wholly you.
This captures more of what I mean when I often use the word authentic.
Like on vacation, we are daring enough to wear the two piece, buy a new fedora, wear that interesting dress…we won’t see these people again, it’s vacation why not!? Why not bring that adventure home? Is that adventure our whole self or not? Maybe our whole self is more of the one that would rather wear a t shirt all week.
Let it be that. Just be a person of integrity.
Credit to my wife, Kelly, for most of these thoughts. She is brilliant!
I’ve found myself de-humanizing others. Seeing people as opportunities or getting what I want.
While in Mexico I felt surprised that people very different from me could have great accomplishments. For example how could the Mayans build such a marvelous structures! They were so long ago and I imagine so much less human than me now…the driver of our car better give us a good deal because I want to save a few bucks…
How disrespectful!
When we humanize situations and others, we open the door for emotion to enter but we also allow the other to exist as they are.
Fullness can be found in accepting my normal is different from yours.
Why do we get so set on our ideas or plans?
Haven’t we seen that evolution tells a success story of those that change and adapt?
I’m going to actively seek out what needs changed. Call it out. Ask for help. And make a difference so none of those near me become the dodo birds.
I went SCUBA diving today. Amazing!
When diving, boyancy is important and takes preparation. You must feel yourself sinking and before you sink too far, breathe in to rise up slightly. It takes pre-planning.
However it is not all pre-planning. In the most dramatic moments we must ditch our efforts to plan and prepare and be agile.
Adapting and changing our plans or points of view.
Mask falls off, stop check respirator, open eyes swim cautiously to the mask or signal for help and surface.
Boyancy is used often but we must be ready to be nimble.
In cycling, you want to have a tire that has as low of rolling resistance as possible…basically you want it to not stick to the ground too much.
You also want it to stick enough that it keeps you upright through corners and bumps.
I’ve realized an added rolling resistance in my own life is my need for others to give affirmation or validate my efforts, work, time, energy put in…
I need some of that just as who I am but how much of that need is just added grip holding me back?
Why do we get so excited to be chosen for something?
Sometimes for me it is a pure excitement. Built from feeling appreciated, thought of…
Other times though, my excitement is motivated from dangerous parts of who I am. My want for control. Pride that I am the only one that can do it. My thought that it all rests on me to carry the weight.
It doesn’t all rest on me. It doesn’t all rest on me. It doesn’t all rest on me.
I need to remind myself of this so often. If you’re like me, hearing this truth is difficult but oh so good.
It doesn’t all rest on you. Let yourself off the hook. Don’t take yourself so seriously.
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