Choosing the most whole path can be difficult when there is resistance ahead.
Often for me, the most difficult resistance is my own pride.
I want to choose myself and my own ideas rather than accept that another route is the more true.
The more I do this, the easier it gets. I start to tell myself fuller truths such as, “It isn’t necessary for all to see you in the light you wish…I need others to make this decisions…My perspective is not complete…”
Where is integrity, the truest, most whole, when two or more sides are backed with confidence?
How do we determine the truest path?
Integrity, in these moments, is less about the outcome and more about the process. We must be true to hear the others and true to stand for us.
The outcome will not end in both being right and maybe it will end with both sides thinking theirs is right but integrity can still exist without agreement.
Often I can tell if I’m experiencing integrity in these moments or not. Sometimes I choose my pride over integrity and other time humility comes through the desire for integrity.
Many of these thoughts are from reflection on the Patagonia produced movie, Jumbo Wild.
Where our rhythms are, we can find hints towards our whole selves. Our integrity.
In order for a rhythm to exist we have to believe in something about it quite wholly. We must be committed to the rhythm for it to continue to exist.
I’m going to examine the rhythms that already exist in my life and look for ones to try out to see if I can discover more of my whole self.
Selling: the point is profit
Inviting: the point is experience
In some areas I’m focusing towards selling when the more integrity (intrinsic or whole) driven route is closer to inviting.
Let’s look for ways to invite rather than sell. It’ll change, not only our pitch, but also our motivation and reward
Phil: I’ve had the thought lately, “I wish there were more people like me.”
Kelly: You have a lot of great thoughts and that is not one of them
What a kind and delicate way for my wonderful wife to put it!
This thought is incredibly dangerous! It is the opposite of humility, contradictory to progress, and yet I’m sure all of us have thought it often.
We must aknowledge this thought immediately and let it ride away if we hope for any holistic success.
I know this. But I do not practice it often enough.
Most difficulties in my life are either made from or escalated because I’m taking myself too seriously.
Taking myself less seriously makes me, easier to be around, more open minded, more humble, less self critical.
Maybe efficiency or productivity can be found in taking oneself with high seriousness. I do not think it’s usually worth it though. There is a cost and I am going to start choosing the cost of loss efficiency rather than cost of losing pure enjoyment.
Has it ever been here?
I over use this word.
“I want to be more authentic…She is so authentic…”
Where do we actually find authenticity?
Is this the same as “there is nothing original”?
There is nothing authentic?
Authentic= of undisputed origin. Genuine.
I am a millennial. It’s easy to pick things out about us.
Here are some points I hope we are all reminding my people
Maybe these aren’t only good for millennials. We all need reminders of these point.
This is my puppy Ender. She is the best!
A lot of times she will do what my wife, Kelly, calls a snuggle attack.
She wants to snuggle with you but she does so my ‘attacking’ you or chewing on something she shouldn’t or getting between you and your phone…
All she wants is to be noticed and acknowledged.
I do this a lot too. I’m sure you do too.
We pout, make a scene, get upset, say mean things, all in order to be be told ‘I see you’, ‘I’m here with you’.
Just knowing this about ourselves makes it better. I’m also going to try to tell people more often that I see them.
Can there be too much?
When I protect myself so much that I miss important opportunities, it is too much.
Its important to protect ourselves but maybe it’s more important to remember the fleeting nature of life.
Can we really protect ourselves?
Is it our right to protect ourselves?
Do we owe it to the world and all around to drop self protection?
phil invites 